originally posted on LinkedIn, 26th of November 2024
In today’s ever-changing and complex world, adaptability and flexibility are crucial. But beyond adjusting to external changes, many of us must undertake an inner journey: learning how to voice tensions and speak about them openly.
Have you ever felt a strong urge to speak up but hesitated? Perhaps you were uncertain, afraid of the consequences, or unsure how your words would be received.
I’ve been there. I wanted to say something and was unable to speak up. It hurt me.
Speaking Up: A Personal Turning Point
There was a time when I had that gnawing feeling—a tension inside me—screaming for attention. I knew I had to speak up, but fearing potential consequences held me back. What if I said the wrong thing? What if it honestly jeopardized my career?
Eventually, I took the leap. I spoke out loud, knowing it might cost me certain opportunities or smooth career paths. And while the fear of repercussions was real, the relief, and alignment I felt afterward was undeniable. I realized that addressing these tensions wasn’t just about solving external issues—it was about growing as a person.
That moment changed everything for me.
The “Harmony Trap”
In my journey toward embracing self-management and authenticity, I discovered something that felt like a “Harmony Trap.”
The Harmony Trap is the tendency to prioritize maintaining peace and avoiding conflict over addressing real issues. As someone who values harmony, I often found myself falling into this pattern. I wanted to ensure everyone felt good and avoid uncomfortable discussions. But in doing so, I sometimes avoided the hard conversations that truly mattered.
This wasn’t just about me—it was about the organization. By staying in the Harmony Trap, I was unintentionally holding back important conversations that could have driven meaningful change.
Breaking Free
Breaking free from the Trap required me to:
- Recognize the tension: Acknowledge the discomfort as a sign that something important needed addressing.
- Build self-confidence: Trust that my voice and perspective were valuable, even if not everyone agreed.
- Embrace growth: See challenges not as obstacles but as opportunities to learn and improve.
The Power of Real Conversations
In self-managing environments, where autonomy and collaboration are key, these honest conversations become even more vital. They’re the foundation for trust, alignment, and progress.
Speaking up isn’t easy. It requires courage and practice. But the rewards—personal growth, better decision-making, and stronger relationships—are worth it.
If you’re navigating similar challenges, I encourage you to reflect:
- What’s holding you back from speaking your truth?
- How can you create space for real conversations in your organization?
Let’s embrace change, address tensions, and step into the conversations that truly matter.




